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Treating Your Husband Like a Man..Little Boy..King?!?

Are you treating your husband like a man or like a little boy or like a king? The best way to treat your man like a man is by respecting who he is and his God-given position in the marriage. If you treat him as if he were one of the kids he will feel disrespected. No man wants to be married to his mother, but that’s what it feels like when a wife constantly nags, complains, criticize his failed attempts, insult him in front of the children, treat him like a child, talk badly about him to your friends, turn your parents against him, make critical decisions without involving him, withhold sex to punish him, boast about other men’s virtues while demeaning him, yell at him, refuse to be his helper or demands things of her husband for one reason or another.

You see I used to do this with my husband. I was a needy, demanding, bossy, and controlling wife. I expected things from my husband because I was not happy with myself. Unhappy wives and husbands become needy and spongy with each other when they feel they are in lack of something or when they fear something. Only Our Creator can fill the lack within us. We must ask Him into our lives and allow Him to lead us.

A big part of the problem is that some men give their wives good reason to treat them like little boys. If you don’t assert your position as that of ‘being the man of the home” your wife will automatically take up your position in the marriage as if it is her position. A man likes to be the king in his home, but if the wife is already acting as if she is the king where does that leave the husband? The queen? I hope not.

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the savior. Ephesians 5:22-23

Why do some husbands have affairs? Is the grass really greener on the other side of the fence? A real man doesn’t want to be scolded like a child. He doesn’t want to be rejected and he doesn’t want to be bossed around and told what to do. He wants to be treated like a man. If a husband is not being respected at home the chances of him having an affair, emotional or physical are more prevalent. I’m not condoning affairs because they are wrong? How a wife treats her husband doesn’t justify a husband having an affair.

Did you know that God created the man with the spiritual and physical ability to protect his family? It’s instinctive for the man to be a protector, overseer, and captain”. But if wives aren’t allowing their husbands to take care of them, because they think that they can take care of themselves then essentially you are disrespecting him and his position as the man of the marriage. Spiritually speaking, husbands have been given the authority by God to lead the home with loving influence and guidance.

Angie Lewis

Wives, Treat Your Husband Like a King ❃Bishop T.D Jakes❃

 

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2 Responses to “Treating Your Husband Like a Man..Little Boy..King?!?”

  1. …For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the savior. Ephesians 5:22-23….A problem in many marriages is that the husband interprets this to mean he is superior and should control the wife. Would like to see some comments on how a man can be the “head of the wife” without making her feel inferior or dominated.

  2. JLS,

    As husbands we are also called to be like Christ and die to ourselves as Christ died for the Church. Our brides are like the Church and thus we are called to die for them, not necessarily in a physical manner, but in the small everyday sacrifices. A husband is called to serve and die to himself for his wife. That being said, with a husband being called to lead his wife and die for her…how would any logical woman not want to follow and be lead by a man who puts his wife’s emotional, physical and spiritual well being ahead of his own. It is too bad that because of our sinful nature, both sexes misinterpret this passage in the bible as being one of control and power. It is the complete opposite. If your husband attempts to be Christlike, it should not be difficult allowing him to lead and be your head and King of household.


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